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Honestly Speaking…

There’s this new thing I’m trying out, and it’s changing the way I am drastically. It’s called the truth. Yup – the honest and simple truth. Many people think that this is an obvious choice, ‘always tell the truth’, ‘honesty is the only policy’ – yet not many people can honestly say that they speak the truth all the time. Well I am – and trust me, it has been challenging.


Big Little White Lie

The ‘Honestly Speaking’ challenge is quite difficult for me, because I generally am a people-pleaser. I don’t like disappointing anyone and would rather say a little white lie than tell you the honest truth about you losing the baby fat. Since I have taken on this challenge, I have made the conscious decision to speak the truth every time a sentence leaves my mouth.

I’m not gonna lie – it has not always been well received. Sometimes if I can’t say the truth, I choose to not say anything at all. At least that way, I am not lying. A cluster of small white lies can eventually lead to a complete misconstruction of the truth, and that is something that I do not want to be responsible for.

Being Nice or Being a Liar

The problem with white lies is that once you start, it a bit difficult to stop. From over-praising the terrible birthday present to going out with someone because you don’t want to say the truth. I’ve come to realize that my ‘being nice’ has often been taken advantage of – and then I eventually have to lie get out of situations.

… And I hate that. So if there was a choice to either be nice or a liar – I honestly want to choose the first but that means being brutally honest (which people don’t expect from nice people).


To Be Honest…

The ‘Honestly Speaking’ challenge is in full motion for me. It has changed the way I make decisions and communicate with others slightly – not that I was a compulsive liar before. I just had this habit of putting what others expected from me before what I really wanted to say/do. Telling an actual lie is a tedious and head ache-inducing chore for me, so my little bunch of lies have all fortunately been white.

But not anymore. I have made the choice to speak my mind, and be as honest as I can be. Since telling the truth, and nothing but the truth, I feel more free and liberated… which was completely not expected!What’s your take on white lies and would you take on a challenge such as my ‘Honestly Speaking’ one? Share your thoughts below šŸ™‚


5 thoughts on “Honestly Speaking…

  1. This really made me think! I’m a people pleaser too and I tend to get in over my head by trying to do everything for everyone. I like the idea of this challenge, can’t wait to hear how it goes!


  2. Good for you! The truth is not limited to just what you say, but also what you think and how you face up to reality.

    I’ve been practicing honesty for a while now. I learned from yoga that honesty leads to purity of the mind.

    But… sometimes, I’d have to say that my honesty is both a strength and a weakness.

    Because there ARE situations when I probably SHOULD lie. Haha.

    In your case though, I get it. If being too nice has led you to being taken advantage of, then sometimes you just have to practice being out with the truth!


  3. I kept nodding throughout reading your post. White lies although not harmful can slowly start becoming sort of a burden even if it looks like it isn’t. Speaking of which, I prefer to be honest most of the time and just speak what’s on my mind, which sometime people mistake as being rude and arrogant! šŸ˜€ But sometimes when it comes to people close to your heart, all you have left is white lie. So even if I try to speak the truth, something just stops me and well an innocent white lie slips out. However I can relate to your situation. I used to be a people-pleaser myself too many years ago. And it still haunts me remembering those days when I was being used and thrown around because I just wanted to please everybody. *sigh* Rough days..and LOL now people hate that I’m so straight-forward. šŸ˜€


  4. I think I’m the lone voice, but sometimes I think people use “honesty” as an excuse to not censor their words or to justify speaking their mind, even if it’s hurtful. So while, yes, honesty is generally the best policy, I think if it is more gentle to be truthful in your heart and gentle with your words, it might be a kinder choice.


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